She Calls Me A B*tch At Least Once A Week

I was caught off guard when I asked Coral what makes the team of ‘Coral and Christine’ so strong. She looked at me and said, “She calls me a b*tch at least once a week”.

I wasn’t expecting that response, but the more I delved into the reasons for their longstanding working relationship, the more it made sense.

Christine and Coral sitting at a table in a friendly pose. Christine calls Coral a bitch at least once a week but it’s what makes it all work.

Coral and Christine assumed ownership of the little shop on top of ‘Administration Hill’ here at Mountain View a couple of years ago. The shop was already successful but with their recipe for magic, they transformed it into something even more successful.

Marion (the previous keeper of the shop) had opened the shop every morning for years, ready to greet whoever walked through the door. There was always a good supply of staple food items on the shelves and ice-creams in the freezer. And you could be guaranteed a chat about village life while you shopped.

But there comes a time in every volunteer’s life when they need to stop and smell the roses, or coffee (…whichever). Marion wanted to spend more time with Ray, and travel more often to catch up with family.

So when Marion called ‘Closing Time’ for the last time, she handed the keys of the shop over to Coral and Christine. The new team accepted the challenge and rose to the occasion.

Little by little the Craft Shop evolved; well, it’s still evolving. As fast as Coral and Christine think up new ideas, they find a way to implement them.

The Craft Shop became the Hub

2020 will go down in history as the year that stopped the planet. COVID-19 struck in February and brought us all to a grinding halt.

New regulations meant restriction of movement to within our own little bubble of the local shops, and only for essential goods and services. Most of us heeded the advice and were happy to go into full lock-down.

Coles deliver groceries, but only if you have the technology to order online. So every week, Coral drove to Tweed Heads to load up her car with groceries from Aldi to stock the shelves of the Craft Shop. Buying for less meant residents paid less.

Safety Plan

Coral and Christine baked throughout the restrictions, and kept the shelves stocked with everything we needed while at home (especially chocolate).

A COVID-19 safety plan was implemented within the shop to ensure all residents stayed safe.

Residents without transport simply phoned the shop, placed their order, and Coral delivered, leaving the items in a safe place at the door.

The strength of these two women during the worst of the pandemic was outstanding.

Either or both of them could have taken the easy way out and stayed home in isolation. But they didn’t. They armed themselves with masks and sanitiser and soldiered on. There was little thought for their own safety, apart from doing everything they could to protect themselves. Their concern was for the residents of Mountain View and what they could do to help them.

Refrigerator containing drinks, cheese, bread eggs, cream, milk helped residents during COVID-19

“So, what is it about you two that keeps you working together so well?” I asked.

Coral’s initial response to that question shocked me a bit.

“She calls me a b*tch at least once a week”, she said.

But then it made sense.

They don’t take life, or themselves too seriously. Perhaps that’s the secret?

So What Else Works?

  • There’s No ‘I’ in TEAM
    • They treat each other as equals
    • There is no boss – they are each the boss and the worker
    • Neither of them sees herself as the Queen Bee
  • They communicate
    • They discuss options before making a decision
  • Each respects the other’s strengths
    • Christine takes care of the banking and finances
    • Coral takes care of the shopping and stocking the shelves
    • They both bake and cook
    • Christine makes craft items to sell
  • There’s no tall poppy
    • A success for one, is a success for both
    • Tall Poppy Syndrome is something neither of these two suffer from; they’re too busy making Mountain View a better place

The most important thing that unites these two powerful women is the love they have for Mountain View. Everything they do is for the good of the community. When you have the right values and motivation for what you do, success follows.

And these two powerful women know no bounds; if they can dream it, they make it happen. Their energy is limitless. When you look at the shelves in the shop bursting with items for sale, you realise how much time and effort these two put into their day.

craft items on shelves that keep the store well stocked with items to sell

Christine and Coral are just two of the many powerful women who call Mountain View their home.

It’s time for all our powerful women (and men) to be celebrated.

Wrap Your Laughing Gear Around This!

Wrap your laughing gear around this, and let’s dissect this whole ‘ageing and happiness’ business.

“You don’t stop laughing when you grow old; you grow old when you stop laughing”

George Bernard Shaw
Wrap your laughing gear around this…
image from Pixabay

Who Wants To Grow Old Before Their Time!?

Retiring from a long, stressful career in Education has given me the freedom to kick back and enjoy life. And one of the best decisions I made before hanging up the chalk for the last time, was to buy a unit at Aveo Mountain View Retirement Village.

Living in Paradise!

I meet people every day who have ‘happiness’ written all over their face. Their smile brightens even the dreariest winter’s day. Life, love and laughter emanate from their every word and motion. Even those who have the least to smile about, find something in their day to be happy about.

Those who have mobility challenges, or are wracked with pain, still smile. Perhaps they are thankful for waking up each day to the beautiful sounds of nature that abound in our twenty-eight acres of Paradise.

You can spend the whole day crying about it, or you can learn to love the cold…

I recently read an interesting story about a father and son in Norway. When the boy was about four years old, the father took him ice-fishing. The son was not happy because ice-fishing means standing around on a big block of ice for a very long time, and it was seriously cold. He soon made his feelings known in no uncertain terms, as a four year old would, and he cried.

The response from his father gave the son a life-lesson that he never forgot.

“Look, you’re here now. You can either spend the whole day crying about it, or you can learn to love the cold. You’ve got a choice. You can either choose to be miserable, or choose to love the cold.’ And so that’s what we did. We just learned to love the cold.”

Jon Giaan

We All Have Choices

We can either cry about a situation, or learn to love it. The choice is ours.

That doesn’t mean we have to blindly accept every situation we find ourselves in. It means we have the choice to accept the situation or change it. If we can’t change it, then accepting it – learning to love it – is the best option.

Changing the weather in a cold Norwegian winter isn’t an option. The father’s advice to learn to love the cold made a life-long difference to the way his son viewed life.

If you can’t change a situation, then embrace it and learn to love it.

If you can change it – change it.

You even have a choice in how you change a situation.

You can:

  • Grumble about it and make everyone else miserable as well
  • Rant and rave and get people offside – often it’s the people you need to have on-side that you upset the most
  • Blame everyone else for the situation – when often the challenging situation reflects a choice you have made and now regret
  • Hold on to a grudge – some people seem to like being unhappy
  • Ignore genuine help to solve a problem – as above, some people don’t really want a solution, even if it is handed to them on a silver platter – they seem to prefer to grumble and complain
  • Acknowledge those who offer solutions – and work with them to bring about the change you want to make

And that’s what puts the smile on the faces of the people I meet every day.

They are happy to work with those who are striving for positive changes in their own life, and the lives of others.

And if it can’t be changed?

By learning to accept situations – learning to love the ‘cold’, we become, or remain, happier people.

Getting back to the wisdom of George Bernard Shaw – we grow old when we stop laughing.

And Who Wants To Grow Old Before Their Time?

Not Me!

… and obviously not the majority of people who live in Mountain View Retirement Village.

As for the few unhappy people in the village – who knows? Maybe the infectious laughter of the rest of us will show them that growing old (and grumpy) is a choice.

So wrap your laughing gear around all the fun things on offer in the Village, and stay as young as you are!

Life can be tough – but how you handle it is your choice. You can laugh or you can cry. Both probably take the same amount of effort – so why not laugh?

“Laugh, and the world laughs with you…”

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Stay young folks – the choice is yours!

And It beats the heck out of being old – and grumpy!

Disclaimer: This post does not intend to diminish Mental Health issues, especially Anxiety and/or Depression. The post simply aims to highlight the choice for individuals to focus on happiness rather than sadness. Unless otherwise stated, all information contained herein is the opinion of the author. The post does not constitute a diagnosis or specific treatment of any physiological or mental disorder. If this post has raised questions concerning long-term anxiety, sadness or depression, please seek advice from a professional.

The Author: Maureen Durney

Is there Harmony in the Village?

How does a family of more than two-hundred members live harmoniously in close proximity? Stick around and I’ll talk you through the harmony in the village I live in.

Like any family of more than two members (should that be, more than one member?), there are bound to be problems. Is that how it is in Mountain View Retirement Village?


Put more than two hundred seniors together – and personalities will overlap, overtake and sometimes erupt. We have residents from a wide range of careers, ethnicity, life-experiences and personalities. What levels the playing field is that we are (mostly) all retired.

In the world of retirement, we are all equal. There is no boss – we are Retired.

Some retire better than others.

Because some of us have been defined by our career, we sometimes carry our career position over into our post-career retirement lives. This can be problematic if two (or more) supervisor/authoritarian types clash over a leadership role. Luckily this is rare in the village, and it usually settles down, reasonably well.

If we think about the average family, we see the intermingling of personalities, the clashes and the celebrations. When we look at life here in the village – we see it all. The personalities, the celebrations and the clashes. Our extended family is no different to yours.

We don’t need a formal definition of each of the personality types that make up our community. We see them in action every day.

  • The Workers are in the kitchen before every function – baking and cooking. They are there again at the end of the function – washing, drying and sweeping. And they keep the craft shop supplied with home-baked biscuits, slices and saleable items. They voluntarily give their time freely.
  • The Carers are taking their neighbours to medical appointments, or are shopping for them. They check in on an older neighbour to make sure they are okay. And they invite new neighbours to functions and make them feel welcome.
  • The Decision-makers are on committees. They attend meetings, make and communicate decisions – all in a voluntary capacity.
  • The Supporters attend functions and meetings, and read all communications from the committees.
  • The Supervisors are the ones who haven’t adjusted as well to retirement, or possibly even life. They usually don’t get involved, but are happy to tell those who do, how they should do it. And they’re even more willing to criticise any attempts by anyone else to make our village a better place to live. Fortunately, we don’t have many Supervisors in our village, so they tend to just lurk, grumblingly, in the background. And life goes on.

This is what our family looks like.

We have our differences, and like any family, those differences sometimes clash and erupt. It happens – but it is the exception, not the rule.

When we walk around the village, we see happy retirees. There will always be someone sitting on their front porch to say “Hi!”, as we walk by.

We can sit in the library, or by the pool, and chat to a friend or a stranger. Or we can sit in the Community Centre and put a few more pieces in the communal jigsaw puzzle, read a book, or enjoy a coffee – or two.

We can get active in Tai-Chi, Bowls or walk around the lake to keep fit.

Boredom is a word we don’t hear in the village. If we are not into the physical exercise routines of Aquarobics, Line-Dancing or Tai-Chi, we can learn quilting or take an Art class. And Trivia on Monday nights keeps the brain-cogs turning.

Kerrie Will Do It!

Like any family, we have our ups and down. But we are there for each other when it matters most. Many of us don’t have family close by, so if something goes wrong, it’s nice to know we are not alone. As long as we reach out and get involved, there will always be someone looking out for us. And if we don’t reach out – Kerrie will.

I reckon our beautiful Kerrie knows everyone in the village, so you can expect a knock on the door if she knows you’re not well. And she will be there to arrange available services to make sure you get through the tough times. Kerrie isn’t shy about calling an ambulance if you need it, but most of the time, her bubbly, caring personality and quick-wit are enough to make you feel better.

Our Village Manager is there for the tougher situations. David oozes Calm and Serenity, and is the best person to be in the middle of tough personalities when they (rarely) overlap and erupt. Remember, just like your family, we have our sibling rivalry and family disputes. It’s called L-I-F-E! But David helps us weather the occasional family storms.

And that’s what keeps the harmony in the village, and makes Mountain View Retirement Village a great place to live.

Up here on the hill, life goes on

And there is harmony in the village… most of the time.

Why don’t you come and see for yourself? We’d love to see you.

Drop us a line in the comments section, and we’ll make sure the kettle is on when you get here.

Timetable for Seniors Expo

With only a week before Aveo Mountain View’s Big Day on the 22nd February, the timetable for the Seniors Expo is ready to go. Displays are being finalised and external agencies are lining up to attend.

You will find us at 1 Ingram Place, Murwillumbah (off Byangum Road) and you can phone us on 02-6672-4800 (Office Hours) for more information and to RSVP.

It’s all happening!

The first tour of the village will kick off at 11.30am, so make sure you add your name to the RSVP at the bottom of the page.

Why are we getting excited about the Seniors Expo at Mountain View Murwillumbah? Because we get to show off where we live!

Timetable

  • 11.30 – Tour of the Village
  • 12.30 – Official Welcome and Opening of the Expo
  • 12.40 – Tour of the Village
  • 1.30 – Tour of the Village
  • 2.00 – Cooking Demonstration
Our beautiful Mountain View Lake

Between the tours, there will be displays in the Community Centre of current and proposed activities, as well as presentations by:

  • Hearing Connect
  • Aveo Sales
  • HearingLife
  • Funeral Director and Celebrant
  • Mobile Rehab
  • Community Transport
  • Aveo Connect
  • UPA – United Protestant Association
  • Nutrition Select
  • Aveo Benefits
  • U3A – University of the 3rd Age
  • Local Artists
  • Technology Display
  • Freedom Sales
  • Aveo Care at Home
  • Neighbourhood Watch


Nature at it’s Best!

When you read the sales pitch about twenty-eight acres of bushland, you’d better believe it! Trees and wildlife abound here at Mountain View. We’ve got plenty of trees and plenty of birds. And the beautiful lake attracts turtles, ducks and lots of water dragons.

Each morning we have wake-up calls from:

Who doesn’t love our Kookaburras?

They’re happy to sit on the railing – just waiting for a friendly smile.

Slow Down!

The speed limit throughout the village is 15 km/h

We want to protect our residents and our native wildlife, so please drive slowly when you come to visit. Our water dragons and brushturkeys roam free because this is their home too – so watch out for them on the road.

RSVP

Let us know you’re coming so we know how many cups to put out for a cuppa!

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