Born in Sydney - retired in Mountain View Murwillumbah, after teaching Special Education for more years than I can remember in NSW and Qld. My goal is to figure out the finer points of putting together a functional website and to write blogs that people want to read. Oh, and to travel the world, and share the beauty of the beautiful place I now call home.
…Not that it should have been in there in the first place. For a team to work well, it has to be a t-e-a-m, not a te-i-am. When two t-e-a-ms join forces for the common good of all, a lot can happen, and that’s what the residents of our little piece of paradise are in for in 2023.
Let’s go back a step.
Mountain View Retirement Village is a Strata Scheme, which means we come under the guidelines of the Strata Schemes Management Act 2015 (SSMA2015). Because we are a Strata Scheme, we have to have a Strata Committee to represent owners in decision making on anything to do with common property and financial decisions. It’s a bit complicated and I won’t bore you with the details, but since 2015 some units are Leasehold, which is a slightly different kind of ownership. We still come under the SSMA2015 legislation, but we need to take into account our Leasehold owners and make sure they are represented in all matters as well.
After a bit of a shaky start, we have recently formed a Residents Committee that works closely with the Strata Committee. Our goal is to make our village the best it can be, and if a recent meeting is anything to go by, we’re on the right track. The two committees held their first combined meeting to work on a project that will benefit all residents.
Because this is a retirement village, it isn’t easy to get people to step up to be on a committee, and that’s a good thing because we’re retired, right? But someone has to do it, so it’s great that we have a dedicated team of residents who are willing to get involved. And that’s why we try to keep it as low-key as possible. Dare I say, we even have fun in the process – okay – maybe not so much on the Strata Committee because that’s the serious side of the business, but definitely on the Residents Committee. I don’t think there’s ever been a (new) Residents Committee meeting that hasn’t culminated in lunch at a local restaurant, and that is always heaps of fun.
So, whoever took the ‘i’ out of ‘te-i-am’, we thank you. Our t-e-a-m (both committees) is working beautifully to make this fantastic place even better.
Watch this space for updates on what the two committees (t-e-a-ms) are up to at Mountain View!
You might think I’m biased about living in paradise, but it seems others feel the same way.
Take a look at these amazing videos of the place that is home to so many of us. We live in 28 acres of bushland, and wake up to the call of kookaburras, magpies and whip birds every morning. It doesn’t get any better than that.
Gavin is our resident Movie-maker and has made fantastic videos of Mountain View, so make sure you check them all out.
Thank you Gavin, for highlighting our place in paradise.
The remnants of COVID-19 restrictions still linger here at Mountain View – and in the wider community. With the Anzac Day march cancelled again this year, Anzac Day 2021 was almost a replica of 2020.
Neighbours gathered in driveways with lighted candles and remembered brave men and women who have served in wars past and present.
Russell, assisted by Jim, organised a beautiful Dawn Service at the flagpole.
Georgina had placed candles around the flagpole, and residents gathered with their own candles to remember Veterans, past and present, on this special day.
At the conclusion of the ceremony, guests were invited to have tea, coffee and Anzac Biscuits in the Community Centre, organised by Georgina, with the assistance of Coral.
As well as those who attended driveway ceremonies, there was a significant number of Veterans at our Dawn Service.
The highlight for me was a chat with Audrey, after the Service.
Audrey is in her nineties, but she still remembers some of the better times of serving in the Women’s Auxiliary Air Force (WAAF) during World War II.
She told me that enlisting was exciting for her, and the girls she served with. But like the words in the Redgum song, ‘she was only nineteen’, and it was the first time she (and others) had lived away from family. It was a time of camaraderie and friendship.
Then, as now, Audrey was petite, and she told of her disappointment in not having a uniform for the first few weeks because they didn’t have one to fit her; her uniform had to be specially made.
She also told of the excitement that surged through the Base in Melbourne when cigarettes were in stock in the Canteen. She would rush down there with the other girls and hand over sixpence for a packet of Craven “A”. But Audrey laughed when she explained that she doesn’t smoke now and she didn’t smoke then; she was just caught up in the excitement.
Audrey’s job was in Signals; she would type out the Morse Code that relayed information about the movement of planes.
They deserve our ongoing gratitude.
We not only remember and honour Veterans like Audrey on Anzac Day, but every day that we wake up in our democratic nation, in relative peace.
It is with gratitude that we thank:
Russell – for organising the Dawn Service for Anzac Day 2021
Jim – for assisting Russell at the Dawn Service
Georgina – for organising the candles, seating and refreshments
Coral – for making and serving tea and coffee
Marilyn – for allowing the use of her wall-hanging for the Ceremony
Our Veterans – for proudly wearing their medals and attending the Dawn Service
Our Residents – for braving the chilly morning to attend the Dawn Service for Anzac Day 2021 at Mountain View
All Veterans and Serving Members – past, present and future
After a bit of a dry spell (thanks, COVID-19 – Not!) we’ve hit the road running in 2021. The new Social Committee is up and running and things are looking up. We are all set to Share The Love!
The new team boasts a couple of well-known residents who have had years of experience in organising events. Coral, Christine, and Ray have all been around the block a few times and know exactly how to get things organised.
But don’t underestimate the new members.
Stella, Neila and Dave have years of experience between them and have brought fresh ideas to the team.
And me? Well, I’m there to help Stella manage the paperwork; the meeting notes and correspondence.
At the first meeting that was held the day after the AGM, ideas started flowing and we decided how the team would work best. The key to a successful committee is to remember there is no I in TEAM. We have delegated positions for the smooth running of events and meetings, but decisions are made by the team at committee meetings.
Before the meeting was over we had planned one event and one bus trip for February and a couple of probables for March and beyond.
So what event would you have in February?
Valentines Day, of course!
Share The Love on February 14th – 12.30pm
The hearts are cut out and laminated and love is in the air.
As 2020 starts its descent over the horizon, we look back and think ‘What the ‘beep’ just happened?’.
Wasn’t it only yesterday I was wishing everyone a Happy New Year, saying that 2020 was going to be the best year ever?! Well, we all know how that ended.
Or did it?
This year changed a lot of things, but I think it actually brought us all closer together – not physically, because we still can’t do that if we are observing appropriate social distancing, but emotionally closer.
Social isolation was hard, but the community spirit here at Mountain View got us through it. Through our Facebook Page (Mountain View Murwillumbah), we were able to help our neighbours find resources they needed to ride out the isolation. We found wool, books, DVDs and a whole heap of other stuff that helped fill the hours of those stuck at home.
And through the Craft Shop, Coral and Christine worked tirelessly to keep grocery supplies on the shelves. The community spirit grew stronger during the worst year imaginable.
2020 will be written into the new history books, and as participants, we were all part of making that history. Future generations will read about how we survived the pandemic by staying at home, constantly washing our hands, and wearing masks if we had to venture out of our safe havens. And signing into venues is probably going to be part of our new normal.
Tonight we celebrated the end of the year that was, and it was one of the best events I’ve attended in my five years of living in this fantastic community. It’s hard to describe but there was an overwhelming feeling of peace and harmony. It was an amazing night. It might not have been the most attended event of the year, but it was the spirit of the people who attended that made the night so spectacular.
In less than an hour we will welcome in the New Year, having said goodbye to 2020 forever.
May 2021 bring us more of the events we shared tonight, and may we continue to look out for each other through the coming year.
Things were a bit ‘Frosty’ during set-up, but Jerry, Neila and Coral sorted it out. With Frosty’s help they set up the tables and moved bucket-loads of plants in, ready to sell.
Our crew are a talented lot, so they needed a lot of tables.
And on the day, all the work in setting up the room paid off.
Mountain View Talent
Susan always does a great job selling raffle tickets but this year she has an additional job – making sure we all sign in. Ah, how COVID has changed things.
Bev was busy on her stall of quirky things – everything from scrunchies to socks.
Ivy and Susan admired the shrug Wendy bought for her granddaughter (beautifully hand-made by Helen).
Malcolm knows all about frames and framing.
Our very talented resident, Jack, creates beautiful artwork.
Helen is always ready to lend a hand whenever anything is happening in the village – well – unless there is football on at the same time.
When the Geelong Cats are playing, you’ll find Helen tucked up in front of the TV watching them play.
Our new resident, Helen, with the fabulous crocheted and knitted items she has made.
Julia sold out of quilts pretty fast, and lots of lucky people will be getting beautiful quilts this Christmas. Caz and Christine took a break to admire the beautiful quilts and crocheted rugs made by Julia.
Margaret took care of the gift wrapping, and Bev rewarded her with a well-earned shoulder massage.
The Coral and Christine Team did it again!
A huge thank you to Coral and Christine for their effort in organising the day, and to all who participated, either selling or buying.
A great team effort ensured the success of the day, especially the $500 raised for Charity.
My feet had barely hit the ground at Mountain View when the Annual General Meeting was called. I was too busy settling in to care about the politics of the place, but the agenda included a motion to terminate the Strata Manager. Self-management is complicated in a large scheme, so I wondered if that would be a wise decision to make.
There was a lot to be said at that meeting, and as a relatively new resident I listened to all the arguments, for and against. When I cast my vote in favour of self-management I was confident we could do it.
Just before the AGM I was nominated for a position on the Strata Committee, and I’ve been part of that great committee since then.
It’s a tough gig but someone has to do it
Giving time to be on the Strata Committee has been an honour and a privilege, but it hasn’t been without problems.
The legislation that governs Strata Schemes in New South Wales has changed, and the changes have increased the complexity of managing large schemes like ours. None of the committee members are trained Strata Managers; we’ve been a lot of things in our other lives, but not Strata Managers.
We are a large Strata Scheme and we need the expertise of a fully qualified Strata Manager to guide us.
David does an amazing job as our Community Manager, but the last thing he needs is the extra strain of helping us keep up with changes in the legislation.
What does the legislation say?
The Strata Committee put in a lot of hours in the lead up to presenting Motions to residents at a General Meeting, as per legislation.
The Owners voted on:
whether we need a Strata Manager
which of the two proposals to accept for the appointment of a Strata Manager (dependent on the outcome of the first Motion)
The Motions and two proposals from prospective Strata Management companies were presented at a General Meeting. And the residents of this great village voted in favour of a Strata Manager, and in favour of appointing BCS to manage this fabulous place we live in.
The Strata Committee is still relevant, but the hard work will now be borne by BCS generally, and Matthew (our new Strata Manager) specifically.
Yep! Self-management is complicated
So we can all relax, safe in the knowledge that BCS will handle the hard stuff. They know the legislation inside-out and can answer all those tough questions.
Do we still need a Strata Committee?
Mountain View is a Strata Scheme, even though we have an increasing number of Leasehold units. Until we are 100% Leasehold, we will be a Strata Scheme, and a Strata Scheme has to have a Strata Committee.
I would encourage Owners to consider nominating for a position on the Strata Committee at future elections. We sorted the hard stuff so you can have a much easier experience than the current committee has had.
And what about David?
David will now be able to focus on what he needs to do as Community Manager. The appointment of BCS takes a lot of pressure off him.
The majority of residents love where they live and want to live peacefully and harmoniously with their neighbours. There are a few residents who aren’t happy but that’s life; the rest of just keep on being happy.
I often wonder how David survived all the hard stuff that went on behind the scenes, but he did. He handles it all without even breaking a sweat – he saves the sweat for the football field after work. There’s a lot to be said for a good physical workout after a stressful day.
If it isn’t working, call Dave!
Who do we call when a water main bursts? Dave! He knows which mains to turn off and what to do until the plumber arrives.
Dave is a man of few words – unless you ask for a progress report on his new granddaughter. Then out comes the modern-day brag book (the trusty smart-phone) with the latest photos and videos. And because we all know the mother (and father) of this beautiful baby, we can’t get reports of how she is growing.
Dave will still do what he does best – look after the everyday maintenance stuff.
Jason and the gardeners…
Nothing will change on the garden front. Jason will still manage his fabulous team to keep our gardens as beautiful as they always are.
One of the first things visitors notice are the gardens, especially in spring. We live in a kaleidoscope of colour, carefully planned and cultivated by our amazing gardening team, originally led by Eddie, and now capably managed by his son, Jason. Our twenty-eight acres of spectacular bushland are a credit to this amazing team.
So what happens now?
BCS will take care of the big stuff
David is still at the helm as Community Manager
the girls will continue to manage the office and call-outs
Jason and his team will still look after the gardens
Dave will fix everything that needs fixing (within his job description) and keep us updated on the progress of his beautiful granddaughter
the Strata Committee will liaise with the Strata Manager and continue to make decisions about Common Property
Mountain View is in good hands
Self-management is complicated, and that’s why it’s better to hand the management over to BCS. And we can all get on with what we do best: enjoy our retirement.
Where were you when that massive bolt of lightning hit the village yesterday?
Wait a minute, wasn’t yesterday Halloween?
Was it Nature’s attempt at Trick or Treat?
If Halloween is about scaring the daylights out of people, then yes, I guess Nature won.
There was absolutely no time between that one massive bolt of lightning and the accompanying thunder; they hit simultaneously. No wonder it sounded like it was right above us.
Because it was!
It blew concrete out of the road, literally!
Those of us on Jacaranda and the end of Lakeside Drive were lucky. But those on Fern Avenue and Fern Walk weren’t so lucky.
That bolt of lightning split a tree, then travelled through the garden, under the road and exited at a number of points.
I’m amazed at how it blew the top off this post.
And this one
I reckon this is the missing top….
A large pot of plants in the garden near Jean’s unit literally exploded with the force, the path strewn with soil and fragments of the pot.
A large rock and heavy statue landed on the path in front of the garden.
But the real damage happened on Fern Walk and nearly Lakeside Drive.
I reckon this is why their power went out.
Two power boxes took the force of Nature, which knocked out the Phase B – I have no idea what that means, I’m just repeating what the electrician said. When the lightning hit the power box, it blew phones off walls inside a couple of units in that block, including Rob’s.
Around on Lakeside, Kevin and Jean’s units had no power at all.
You can see the scorch marks from where that massive bolt of lightning found its mark.
Stuart from 2484 Electrical got it all working again, with a little help from Paul from Essential Energy’s emergency crew.
A quick call to Essential Energy’s emergency system brought the back-up Stuart needed.
Some TV‘s are still not working because some sets actually blew up.
Ray was quick to make a call to his NBN provider and a new router is on its way to replace the one that took the brunt of the lightning.
There was no time to unplug routers and TV’s. The storm seemed like it was still off in the distance – UNTIL – that massive bolt of lightning came from seemingly nowhere, and wreaked so much havoc in Mountain View yesterday.
But there were no casualties so we are very lucky.
And in attempt to make peace, Nature gave us these beautiful clouds at the end of the day.
I was caught off guard when I asked Coral what makes the team of ‘Coral and Christine’ so strong. She looked at me and said, “She calls me a b*tch at least once a week”.
I wasn’t expecting that response, but the more I delved into the reasons for their longstanding working relationship, the more it made sense.
Coral and Christine assumed ownership of the little shop on top of ‘Administration Hill’ here at Mountain View a couple of years ago. The shop was already successful but with their recipe for magic, they transformed it into something even more successful.
Marion (the previous keeper of the shop) had opened the shop every morning for years, ready to greet whoever walked through the door. There was always a good supply of staple food items on the shelves and ice-creams in the freezer. And you could be guaranteed a chat about village life while you shopped.
But there comes a time in every volunteer’s life when they need to stop and smell the roses, or coffee (…whichever). Marion wanted to spend more time with Ray, and travel more often to catch up with family.
So when Marion called ‘Closing Time’ for the last time, she handed the keys of the shop over to Coral and Christine. The new team accepted the challenge and rose to the occasion.
Little by little the Craft Shop evolved; well, it’s still evolving. As fast as Coral and Christine think up new ideas, they find a way to implement them.
The Craft Shop became the Hub
2020 will go down in history as the year that stopped the planet. COVID-19 struck in February and brought us all to a grinding halt.
New regulations meant restriction of movement to within our own little bubble of the local shops, and only for essential goods and services. Most of us heeded the advice and were happy to go into full lock-down.
Coles deliver groceries, but only if you have the technology to order online. So every week, Coral drove to Tweed Heads to load up her car with groceries from Aldi to stock the shelves of the Craft Shop. Buying for less meant residents paid less.
Coral and Christine baked throughout the restrictions, and kept the shelves stocked with everything we needed while at home (especially chocolate).
A COVID-19 safety plan was implemented within the shop to ensure all residents stayed safe.
Residents without transport simply phoned the shop, placed their order, and Coral delivered, leaving the items in a safe place at the door.
The strength of these two women during the worst of the pandemic was outstanding.
Either or both of them could have taken the easy way out and stayed home in isolation. But they didn’t. They armed themselves with masks and sanitiser and soldiered on. There was little thought for their own safety, apart from doing everything they could to protect themselves. Their concern was for the residents of Mountain View and what they could do to help them.
“So, what is it about you two that keeps you working together so well?” I asked.
Coral’s initial response to that question shocked me a bit.
“She calls me a b*tch at least once a week”, she said.
But then it made sense.
They don’t take life, or themselves too seriously. Perhaps that’s the secret?
So What Else Works?
There’s No ‘I’ in TEAM
They treat each other as equals
There is no boss – they are each the boss and the worker
Coral takes care of the shopping and stocking the shelves
They both bake and cook
Christine makes craft items to sell
There’s no tall poppy
A success for one, is a success for both
Tall Poppy Syndrome is something neither of these two suffer from; they’re too busy making Mountain View a better place
The most important thing that unites these two powerful women is the love they have for Mountain View. Everything they do is for the good of the community. When you have the right values and motivation for what you do, success follows.
And these two powerful women know no bounds; if they can dream it, they make it happen. Their energy is limitless. When you look at the shelves in the shop bursting with items for sale, you realise how much time and effort these two put into their day.
Christine and Coral are just two of the many powerful women who call Mountain View their home.
It’s time for all our powerful women (and men) to be celebrated.
Don’t wait for all your ducks to be in a row before you start ticking off the items on your bucket list, because the time is now! And there has never been a better time.
How many years have you been saying,
One day I’ll write my story
Maybe I should write that poem?
I’d love to write a book but I don’t know where to start
Most of us have that little bubble in the back of our subconscious mind that floats to the surface enough times to be annoying. And most of us keep suppressing it because we lack the confidence to start.
I should know… I’ve wanted to write a book since I was about eight years old. I wrote lots of essays, and even won prizes for them back in the Fifties, but somehow that optimism didn’t carry through to adulthood.
So What Went Wrong?
I was afraid of snakes when I was young, but I wasn’t afraid to write.
When I picked up a pen and held it over a blank page, words came tumbling out and effortlessly filled the page.
I imagine every child in Primary (Elementary) School had the ’what did you do in the holidays?’ stimulus thrust at them on the first day of a new term. Now that was a hard topic for a kid growing up on twenty acres in a semi-rural area.
Where did I go in the holidays? Church on Sunday.
What did I do in the holidays? Same as every other day.
There wasn’t much to write about, but somehow I could turn the mundane into some kind of readable adventure.
Then College happened.
The professors didn’t have the warm and fuzzy feel of my Primary School teacher, gently pointing out ways to improve. The pressure was on to research every thought; reference every quote, and paraphrase every idea; and write technical jargon that only an academic would understand. My ability to write creatively about a given topic disappeared into a ‘grade-point’ score, where my future career hung on every word.
My teaching career didn’t provide much yield from the rigours of college writing. Reports had to be concise and factual accounts – although some poetic license could be pursued in the comments section of a child’s report: “Johnny has a unique way of solving problems” (read: Johnny is the class-clown).
I had to re-learn creativity when I retired from teaching a few years ago. I’m not there yet, but I am making progress.
After all those years of being told what to write, I now find myself saying “I don’t know what to write about…”.
It’s kind of like coming up with fresh ideas of what to cook for dinner.
I can remember driving home after a long day of teaching when my family was young. My mind would rehash the day for the first part of the drive, but then snapped back into the present with “Oh Heck!, what will I cook for dinner tonight?”. The hardest part of parenting was coming up with interesting ideas for meals. And I hated cooking, which didn’t help at all.
So coming up with ideas of what to write about is a bit like the cooking-dinner routine. If someone had told me what to cook, the battle would be won before it even started.
Writing is the same. Give me a topic and I’ll happily pound the keyboard for hours, producing something reasonably readable at the end.
Are there Sign Posts along the way?
If you are like me and need a road map for writing, there are lots of options available.
If you have a website and blog, the Ultimate Blog Challenge is a great way to hone your writing skills and boost your website at the same time. And you’ll meet a whole lot of new friends from across the globe in the process. You will be inspired and guided by the writing of others on the Challenge, because part of the deal is to comment on other people’s blogs as well as writing your own. And the feedback from others is invaluable.
Start from where you are at…
You don’t have to be the next Shakespeare to get online and share your writing. Writers from all levels of experience and expertise share their words in order to improve their skill. And by reading the work of others, we can refine our own techniques.
One of the online forums I used when I started my blog was ‘A Word a Day’ forum. Each day we would be given a word or phrase, and our blog for that day had to include that word/words.
There are thousands of online sites that will supply a daily stimulus for writers, but you can just as easily make your own.
Put words and/or phrases in a jar and select one each day to write about
Use photos from your collection – choose a different one each day and tell the story
Ask a friend to send/give you a topic each day
Select a time from your childhood and write a short memoir – it could be: starting school; meeting your best friend; dating in high school; sibling rivalry; etc.
Select a photo or image from Pixabay (copyright free) and make up a story about it
The time is now…
It sounds daunting but it is much easier than you think. The more you do it, the easier it gets.
An athlete starts out as a novice, and becomes a professional after hours, or years, of practice. Writing is no different, so don’t beat yourself up over those awkward early attempts.
I cringe when I re-read my early writing attempts, but I treasure them as the yardstick to measure how far I have progressed. And then I read someone else’s writing and realise I still have a long way to go.
My writing muscles are getting stronger with practice, and so will yours.
But it won’t happen unless you start.
So don’t put it off for another day. The time is now, and there has never been a better time.
So pick up that pen or turn on your iDevice, and start writing!
Wayne Bennett, former coach of the Brisbane Broncos, published a book in 2002 called ‘Don’t Die With the Music In You’. Apparently nobody was more surprised than Bennett when the book became an outstanding success and grossed more than a million dollars in sales in the first eight months.
Bennett didn’t write his book for financial gain; he wrote it to tell the story of his love for family and football.
A quote from Oliver Wendell Holmes provided the inspirational title for Bennett’s book, and it is a quote we would all do well to live by.
Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out.
Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr
Bennett received letters from hundreds of readers who told of life-changing events from reading his book, including:
a schoolboy bullied at school found the courage to confront his tormentors
a Vietnam Veteran found the inspiration to turn his life around
an elderly man found strength while reading the book to his dying wife
Bennett just wanted to tell his story, and that story will continue to inspire thousands of readers for years to come.
The story that is in all of us must be told sooner rather than later, because none of us knows when our clock will strike midnight for the last time.
For some of us, later never comes.
Don’t think your story isn’t important…
Bennett’s book wasn’t of epic proportions; his story was told in 192 pages measuring 205mm x 135mm. And that’s not a lot of words – as successful books go.
Your story could be less words than Bennett’s and still have the same effect as his words had, and continue to have.
You might not have coached a successful football team, but your story is just as important. It’s the people you have met on your life journey and the ideals that brought you to where you are today that matter.
Have you lived in the same house, on the same street, in the same city all your life?
The world you navigated within those walls, and in your neighboured as it evolved, will resonate with others:
What kept you close to home?
What changes happened around you in your home, your street, your neighbourhood?
Who are or were the significant people in your life?
Are there regrets?
Were you a wanderer?
How far from home did you roam?
Why did you leave?
How old were you when you left?
Where did you move to?
Did you go back to your hometown?
Are there regrets?
Do your children know?
How much does your family know about what inspired you?
What will they wonder about, and wish they knew, when you are gone?
I’m retired now and have the time to write my parent’s stories, but there is so much I don’t know about them.
If only they had written their stories before they left us; if only I’d asked more questions. Now there is nobody left to ask about their early lives.
Bennett‘s story made more than a million dollars
Kathie and I met on the first day of high school and have been best-friends ever since, but Kathie lives in Melbourne and I’m in Northern New South Wales. With the aid of technology we are writing our stories alone, but together.
Like Bennett, we don’t expect millions of dollars in sales or even movie rights to our book (although we are open to fame and fortune); we will be successful (and grateful) if our book only reaches our immediate families.
Our families will find out why I didn’t become a smoker, thanks to life-lessons under the school hall taught by thirteen year old friends.
They will find out the real reason Kathie left home to join the Air Force at eighteen.
And they may even discover the raw emotions that led Kathie and I to marry our respective spouses, only to abandon our marriages later in life.
What memories will you share?
Do your children know how their parents met?
Have you shared the pain of leaving loved ones behind to travel to battle-fields far from home?
Will your great-great-grandchildren know about the ancestors who forged the way for their existence? And do they know it might be in their DNA to follow the same occupation or life-path you followed decades earlier?
Now is the time to tell your story
We should all take the lead of Wayne Bennett and pen our story before it is too late.
Even scrappy notes left behind in a folder could fill in the blanks when your descendants are writing their family history.
A thumb-drive that contains the recorded history of your lifetime could be gold to future generations. Hearing your voice could provide sweet comfort to someone mourning your loss. And the retelling of significant events could provide the bridge between your era and theirs.
Write it down, record it on storage media, scratch out some notes – it doesn’t matter how you tell your story, just tell it!
Writing and publishing ‘Don’t Die With The Music In You’ means Wayne Bennett won’t take his story with him when he departs this earthly sphere.
I don’t know about you, but I wrote a lot of letters when I was young. We lived in a reasonably remote part of the world and most of my extended family lived in the city. So snail mail, as we now call it, was the only way to communicate with my grandparents.
Did I mention we didn’t even have a telephone back then?
In the course of writing a lot of letters, I managed to find a Pen Pal who lived out the back-of-beyond in the Northern Territory. I can’t remember her name, but the name of her father has never been forgotten.
I was still in primary school at the time, so I was probably about ten years old.
My father’s name was Tom.
My pen-pal’s father’s name was Left Hand Jack.
I looked forward to her letter the minute my letter to her was signed, sealed and posted. Patience is a virtue, and one that I probably should have been cultivating a little more earnestly.
I watched the mailbox like a hawk, eagerly awaiting her reply.
Sometimes her letter would begin with… “I haven’t written because we went walkabout…”.
I loved having a pen-pal, and it seems history might be repeating itself.
This morning while checking my emails, I discovered an initiative launched by Australia Post to connect seniors in Australia the old fashioned, snail mail way.
While the system isn’t open to individuals, it is accessible by a representative of an over-55 organisation. Well, who could resist?
I promptly filled out the form and emailed it off. It’s a little ironic that I didn’t have to hand-write the form and post it. But then this could be the ideal merge of both worlds – email and snail-mail.
I’ve signed us up in the hope that those in the Village who don’t have ready access to technology, or just love the art of hand-writing a letter, will start to communicate with seniors across this vast land of ours.
And since restricted-movements are going to be a part of our lives for a while yet, how good would it be to find out what life is like in other retirement villages?
Australia Post even supplies fancy paper templates that I can print off for anyone who wants to get onboard the pen-pal project.
My application to get us connected with pen-pals has been acknowledged, so I’ll keep you posted (pardon the pun….).
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Aim: To nurture and inspire the writer in each of us
Write, Edit, Publish
Give positive feedback
There is no leader
We may appoint – or self-nominate – as facilitators, but not one of us owns the group
Decisions will be made by the group for the benefit of all
We will not criticise – EVER!
We will offer feedback if asked, but we will be gentle and remember that behind each written word is a beating heart of the human variety
Remember the general guidelines for feedback:
give feedback in the manner you would like others to give you feedback
give feedback on the writing – not the person
offer a positive comment – what you liked about the writing
follow with a suggestion of something that could be tweaked or changed or isn’t working (in your opinion – and it is only your opinion. Others might not agree)
finish with a positive comment
each one of us is brave enough to put our writing out there to be scrutinised – Always Be Gentle!
Toastmasters has trained millions of people to speak confidently in public. This is how they suggest feedback should be given: And since writing is a form of communication, the guidelines apply to both.
If you Google ‘how to build a website’, you’ll find a lot of information, and courses, both online and face-to-face. The cost ranges from free to very expensive.
I didn’t Google ‘how to build a website’ – and I didn’t race off to my nearest college to learn how.
I just did it!
And if I can do it, you can do it.
When I closed the door of my classroom for the last time in April 2016, I was sixty-six years old and had chalked up over thirty years of teaching.
You can’t work fifteen hours a day, five days a week – to suddenly sit on your touché and do nothing. When I first thought about retirement, I thought about what I could learn once I didn’t have to go to work each day.
It’s all in the name
Building a website was on my list of things to do in retirement, so I bought a couple of domain names, just in case. It seemed everyone had a blog and I wanted one too, even though I wasn’t quite sure what a blog was.
The first time I raised the question of my pending website with my web-developer son, the response was “Go to WordPress.com – it’s so easy anyone can do it. You’ll be right”.
I can’t say that I wasn’t tech savvy at the time, but loading a few Apps onto an iPad and reviewing them in the school newsletter, isn’t exactly high tech.
The gauntlet was down – the challenge was on.
Once I’d retired from teaching, I had all the time in the world to learn. So I logged onto www.WordPress.com, rolled up my sleeves, and got stuck into it.
It was flabbergastingly easy! Oh, and perhaps I should mention my learning style…
‘if all else fails, read the instructions’ .
Through trial and error and a few Google searches, I figured it out.
I remember the first time I typed in www.havandra.wordpress.com, and my new website stared back at me. It was an amazing feeling! I’ve kept that old site as a reminder of how far I’ve come. Maybe one day I’ll find time to fix that old site up a bit – now that I know more about building websites. Having said that, it still works just fine the way it is.
Follow Me! I Know a Shortcut!!
I was proud of my first attempt, but I look back now and cringe, given what I have learned since then. I used a lot of text, rarely any headings or sub-headings, not nearly enough white-space, and very few photos.
And before the website police start jumping up and down, I know it isn’t perfect. But I built it myself! And I haven’t had any formal training in how to build a website.
The buzz I got from seeing my first WordPress website up and running (the .com version) inspired me to take the next step. I had bought a few GoDaddy domain names before I retired, including MaureenDurney.com, so now I was ready to build a couple of .org websites.
WordPress.com is a F-R-E-E version of the popular website-platform. You can build and maintain a website without any cost (apart from your ridiculously inexpensive Domain Name).
Racking it up a notch
With a little help from my son for the hosting part, I built a website and started my blog.
WordPress.org gives you more flexibility to customise your website, but you will need to pay to have it hosted. And you will need a Domain Name.
Hosting is the part that gives your website its ‘street address’ out there in cyberspace. Because there’s no point in building a website if nobody can see it. Until you get the hosting part sorted, the only place you’ll see your website is on your computer, or whatever device you use to build it.
When I Googled ‘how to write a blog’, there were heaps of options! But nearly all started with:
Choose a descriptive name…
Well – I’d blown that one before I’d even started.
Your Domain Name is the name of your website. If you think of websites you’ve probably visited, you’ll see how the name of the website describes what they do or who they are.
That doesn’t exactly tell you a lot, unless you are a member of my family or a friend who Googles my name to see what comes up.
GoDaddy is a popular site for finding the right Domain Name.
As soon as I signed the contract to buy a unit in a Retirement Village (even though I wasn’t retired at the time), I bought the domain name ‘MountainView-Living.com’. I had no idea what I would do with it, but figured I could write a blog about what it was like to live there.
Out of the four websites I’ve built, that’s the one domain name I got right. It at least features the name of the village I live in, so you’d expect the blog to have something to do with the place.
Get Hosting ✓
My son helped me with the hosting. He had the option of including the hosting of my site alongside sites that he had built. GoDaddy has a package plan where you can host multiple sites under the one plan – and that’s what my son had.
There are a lot of Hosting companies out there and WordPress has a list of companies that are very WordPress friendly, including many of the companies that sponsor WordPress WordCamps around the world.
I’ve since upgraded one of my sites to WPEngine hosting. They are one of the world leaders in web-hosting and are also a major sponsor of WordPress WordCamps and Meetups.
Customise your site ✓
WordPress has this part covered. And this really is the fun part.
I started by choosing a WordPress theme. WordPress provides heaps of themes that are free to use. And you can test-drive them to see how it will look on your site before locking it in.
Themes have a lot of built-in features to make your life easier. At the start of my website journey, I left it all up to the theme. I chose the theme, installed and activated it, and that was it. Done!
I’ve since learned how to tweak the theme a little, but I mostly stick to the already installed features of the themes I use.
Most of us up here on the hill have been around the block a couple of times (or more!). Some have lived our lives on the edge while others have taken a more conservative, back-seat position. But regardless of what course our lives took, looking at life in the rear-view mirror certainly puts a different perspective on it.
The ordinary experiences of aging alter and clarify your view of past, present and future.
Do you remember how you felt as your twenty-first birthday drew near? For Baby Boomers, twenty-one years of existence signalled the dawn of adulthood. It was the magic number that entitled us to sign contracts and enter into legal agreements (like marriage…) without the written consent, or approval, of our parents.
The world was ours, to do with as we pleased.
And we embraced it with both hands, and wide-eyed wonder. Some of us were invincible and hurtled into life at full-throttle – others moved slowly through the gears (and years). Either way, we explored, experimented, made decisions and settled into an existence that would (hopefully) sustain us into our mature years.
We pursued goals, both career and personal, and raised families. Through lean years and good, we managed to get by. And no matter what life threw at us, we survived.
We were resilient.
The years came and went. Our once busy households were now relatively empty. The children we raised had left to raise their own family. Society even came up with a name for us – we became the ‘Empty Nesters’.
And the Empty Nesters took flight – albeit – on wheels. And another new phrase was coined, as the ‘Grey Nomads’ circled the nation (and the globe). Caravans dotted the highways in no particular hurry to arrive, to the annoyance of the younger generation who lined up on the highway behind us.
Long lines at check-in counters of airports were over-populated by travelling seniors with passports in hand, as they jetted off to another long-awaited destination. The travel bucket-list growing smaller with every return journey.
The SKI Club – Spending Kid’s Inheritance
Back in the day, our parents lived frugally and saved hard – safe in the knowledge they would be leaving a sound financial legacy for their surviving children. And the children lived safe in the knowledge their inheritance would be forthcoming on the demise of their loving parents.
But somewhere along the way, the lines blurred. The borders of the world merged. Inventions like television, and then the Internet, gave us a glimpse of another world. There was more to life than the little patch of ground we called home, and we wanted to experience it – all of it!
Education was the norm for our generation, not the exception. And University became accessible and affordable for more than just the children of the elite.
Our children were not only better educated, but earned more than we ever did.
It no longer made sense to go without – just to leave an inheritance to children who didn’t need it.
And that’s when the SKI Club was born. The grey (or – nearly grey) nomads disposed of the family home and moved into a more mobile abode. One that would deliver them to the far corners of the country, as they ambled along the highways and bush roads of this vast land.
The dawn of a new era
Eventually the nomads wearied of their transitory lifestyle. They had explored the length and breadth of the country – and the gypsy-lifestyle no longer served them. They longed for a little cottage with enough garden to keep them occupied without over-taxing their waning energy and creaking bones.
As they reminisced about the places they had seen, one or two little towns or cities dominated their thoughts. And that’s where they gravitated to. It’s where they would settle down to enjoy their more senior years.
When it’s time to view life in the rear-view mirror, what will you see?
With the big-wheels sold to the next generation of nomads, our grey-nomads bought into a new lifestyle. A place where everyone has a story to tell and no-one is in a hurry to go anywhere. Where folks enjoy a cuppa and a chat to share their travel-tales.
And when darkness falls, you can hear a pin drop.
The forwarding address for all their mail is to a Retirement Village in that quaint little town they found all those years ago – the one they kept going back to – the one they talked about the most.
Travel now is in the luxury of a cruise ship – where someone else charts the course and does the driving.
The pace of life has slowed – as it should.
Life in the rear-view mirror looks good, framed by the memories made in the journey from the beginning of adulthood to the final phase of our existence.